Let’s face it: this is a rough time in life. OR, it could be the best. Who can tell which? It’s such a confusing time that half the time it’s hard to tell if we should be thrilled with it or devastated with how real all the struggles really are. Like anything else in life, it all depends on your mindset. It’s easy for me to gravitate downhill, taking the negative outlook on everything so I try to force myself to straighten all the negative thoughts out into a more positive direction.
There’s so much going on right now that it’s easy to get overwhelmed with it all. We’re gaining and losing friends, bouncing around jobs, trying to figure out what we want in every situation, and ultimately trying to gain the financial upper hand. So much of this part of life is new and confusing that it’s easier than ever to get lost. I can say I’ve already felt lost as hell a few times so far. However, the following tips I came up with are a good guide to follow. (Maybe more like a map drawn by the lost person than an actual GPS, but it’s a promising map).
- Be Prepared to Lose Some Friends
Life is a bitch. Excuse the language. But it really is and you’ll find that some of your friends are, too. People you thought would always be there because, well, they kind of always were, will surely walk away. (It’s their loss). Don’t be too shocked and get into the mindset to make new friends. It only gets harder to make friends as you get deeper and deeper into Adult Life, so don’t waste any time! Network and go out. I don’t mean necessarily getting drunk and partying, but when people invite you to come do things with a group try to actually make yourself go. The friends you always kept in your comfort zone may not always be there so keep multiple different groups of people you can spend time with, and continue expanding your network from there.
2. Work on Your Dream
That thing you always wanted to ultimately do, even if it seemed out of reach your whole life and maybe you weren’t really raised with the mindset to go do the impossible, chase your dreams, to make money off the most difficult thing to make money off of, whatever–go after it. CHASE IT. You don’t want the little voice in the back of your mind taunting you the rest of your life because you were lazy or you didn’t believe in yourself and you just never pursued your dreams. Don’t talk yourself into doing the bare minimum because you’re so young and you have time. No, you don’t. This is when you need to be building your empire. Habits die hard. If you want to stay in the “I’ll do it tomorrow” mindset now, you’ll remain there.
3. Don’t Stress About Love
Lots of people in their 20’s are actually already married, with kids, etc. But if you’re like me and you’re single, try not to think about it too much. Love will come when it’s supposed to. It’s easy to get sad and dwell on lost relationships but overthinking is definitely the main problem there. It’s easier if you think, “it ended for a reason and I shouldn’t take that lightly.” I try to tell myself if it was meant to be it would be. And besides all that, we will never again be as young as we are today and time is not slowing down. So have fun! We might as well enjoy our current situation whatever it is. Once again, it is what it is for a reason. Chances are you’re probably not in the wrong place right now so be in the moment and talk to new people. Take time to really get to know people when you would otherwise keep to yourself if you were in a relationship.
Being on your own allows you to do what you want to do, when YOU want to do it. There’s no debating over dinner or what to watch on TV. You completely own your time and you can really work on yourself. You can explore who you are so that when the right person does come along, you’ll recognize why they’re right for you.
Of course travel is always a go. Plan trips with friends, family, whoever. Get away as much as possible; take off time as much as your job will allow. For people like me, it’s literally necessary for a healthy mindset. There’s no happiness in a monotonous, meaningless, repetitive routine every day doing things that don’t fulfill you. Yes, most people sadly spend most of their lives doing just that (I’m one of them) but at least plan a few times a year to do things in your budget that just get you out of that routine. Adventure is essential for life. Go do the unexpected and enjoy the ride.